First of all congratulations! You have taken the first steps towards a more healthy and beautiful you. You have embarked upon a voyage of transformation and you will see as I have that this journey is about changing your mindset first which will then transform your body. The journey starts with a few simple questions and ends with execution. You must ask yourself “Why am I doing this?” “Why am I really committed to the difficult changes ahead which are necessary to have the life and body that I desire?” I don’t have to tell you that this is a critical crossroads of your life and the aforementioned questions deserve serious consideration. This isn’t about choosing the health and wellness cause célèbre off some blog and pinning it to your chest. What I’m asking you to do is engage in deep contemplation about the real and hopefully transformative motivations that have led you to believe why after all the time, energy, treasure, and effort spent on dieting and gym memberships, this time will be fundamentally different.
Now I agree with you that it seems counter intuitive that thinking and not doing would be the first step in the process, but I assure you I would not have been able to lose one hundred pounds in less than a year if I had not engaged in this very exercise. I came to the realization about halfway through the process that I had to sweep away and muddle through all of the physiological programming, coping mechanisms and hype before truly getting to the heart of the matter. I further realized that I had to “buy into” and recreate the symbiotic relationships between my head, body, and heart so that the motivations were existent and belonged to me distinctively. Once this process was complete, I was able to answer for myself the timeless question of unstoppable force and immovable object. In this case, if the unstoppable force is the will to live a healthy, fulfilled and productive life and the immovable object is obesity, then obesity had to get the hell out of the way!
This part of the process is yours and I cannot, scratch that, will not be able to tell you how to get it done for it is an intimate process deserving of as much time, care, devotion, and attention as a lover. I chose to crystallize my motivations by writing them down and then posting them in as many visible places as possible. I kept them in close reach and in full view first thing in the morning and lastly at night. I made sure that I also shared those motivations with my dearest friends and loved ones so that they could act as my external will when my internal just wasn’t enough to get it done.
Lastly, this part is for your friends and loved ones so please allow them to read it. Stop being an enabler. Sometimes when you truly love someone it’s in their best interest for you to hurt their feelings. As a man I was afflicted with what I call the “I was buff in high school so I must be buff now disorder.” I had no idea that I looked more like the Michelin Tire Man, and I was pissed when I found out. I felt betrayed and the brunt of some longstanding running joke. I was obese and they knew it. I just wish someone had the guts to tell me. Don’t be that person. Talk openly and candidly about your concerns for their health. Show you care with your support and your strength. Trust me they and their grandchildren will love you for it. You will literally be saving a life.